Atlanta Help for Chronic Infidelity, Porn Problems, Sex Addiction and Complex Betrayal

Sex can be wonderful, but not when it involves cheating, deception and unhealthy risks.  Unfortunately people often do just that, placing their relationships, reputations, careers, finances, hopes and self-esteem in harm's way.  Some  watch pornography excessively, others spend large sums of money on sex, or have a string of brief hook-ups or even multiple long-term affairs. The list goes on.  People often know at some level that these behavior patterns are problematic but don't seek help until something bad happens -- which often does.

There are many reasons why people continue engaging in sexual behavior that does not fit within their promises and core values.  Sometimes the problem is one of several forms of sex or pornography addiction.  At it's most basic level sex addiction is a loss of control of the ability to make consistently healthy sexual choices.  Like any other addiction it gradually steals more time and energy away from other pleasures, responsibilities and commitments. Its outcome is measured in losses: loss of connection, self-esteem, trust, relationships, time, income, integrity, freedom, health and hope.  When the same behavior keeps happening in the face of all of this risk, and despite sincere promises to stop or control the behavior, THAT is the hallmark of an addiction.

Like termites in darkness eating away at a home's foundation, these forms of problematic sexual behavior can create caverns deep within a person’s life.  This kind of compartmentalization is how a truly loving and ethical person can become gradually more deceptive.  This slow erosion continues until the collapse.

Getting past these behaviors and the consequences isn't typically quick or easy, even in the presence of sincere promises and deep remorse, but it is entirely possible.  It takes sustained effort to regain trust, rebuild integrity, grieve losses, develop new skills and resources and resolve the issues that contributed to the problem in the first place.  My advice for the best strategy forward is to be honest, to accept the reality of the problem, to be accountable and to remain dedicated to the task of true healing and bedrock personal growth.  

No matter what's going on in your life there are things to do that lead in a better direction and if you do them consistently enough over time the outcome can turn out better than you even dare to hope. If you are reading this because things are a mess and you are looking for help, that's a smart step and a good sign.  If I'm not the person for you for whatever reason (cost, geography, philosophy) find someone you can trust to discuss everything and get a plan of sustained action going forward in your life.  

Look over my background and you will see my qualifications for addressing this topic.  If reading these words leads you to think that I may be the right person to help you then I hope you will set up an initial visit with me so that I can learn what's happening in your life and how I can help. 

-Bill