Atlanta Help for Chronic Infidelity, Porn Problems, Sex Addiction and Complex Betrayal

For many years I've counseled people in Atlanta who have broken their commitments or violated their values because of their sexual actions. If you haven't honored your promises because of your sexual behavior, if you're not ok with your sexual behavior, or if you feel out of control, I can help you change that and live your life differently.  If you are a person who has discovered that your spouse or partner has a sexual double life, I'm a really good resource for empowering and stabilizing you so that you and helping you figure out what to do next.

I offer counseling and consultation for people who want to reduce or eliminate serious, long-standing or complex sexual behavior problems. I provide confidential and expert help for chronic sexual infidelity, pornography problems, sex addiction and similar concerns.  I'll listen intently to your story, ask some helpful questions and give you whatever helpful advice and guidance you're seeking.  If it helps to explore your past to get a deeper understanding of just what's going on and what to do about it, I'm a very experienced therapist who works with both individuals and couples.   I'm a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) as well as a certified clinical partner specialist in betrayal trauma.  I've put together a summary of my background, credentials, qualifications and accomplishments in the field of sexual health, sex addiction and other problematic sexual behaviors.

Sex can be wonderful part of a fulfilling life, but not when it involves cheating, deception and risk-taking.  The sad truth is that lots of people engage in sexual behaviors that harm relationships, reputations, careers, finances, hopes and self-esteem. Some people use pornography excessively. Others spend large sums of money for sex.  Some people engage in secret sexual hook-ups or long-term affairs. The list goes on.  Many people know they have a problem but don't do anything about it until something bad happens. 

What makes good people act this way, especially over and over?  Nobody plans to hurt those they love or damage their own life.  But the human mind has a sad ability to justify all kinds of behavior while ignoring the obvious risks.  These are sexual behavior patterns that can lead to lasting regret and even despair.  And especially when deception has gone on for years a surprise discovery can be devastating on any dimension that matters.  This is when anyone involved can benefit from advice and understanding from a counselor who specializes in these issues.  

The best healing in these situations is usually not quick or easy, even with the most sincere promises and deepest remorse.  It takes a lot to regain trust, rebuild integrity, grieve all the losses, develop new skills and resources and resolve the issues that contributed to the problem in the first place.  My advice is that the best way through this life crisis is to be rigorously honest, to fully accept the reality of the problem, to be wholly accountable and to remain dedicated to the task of true healing and personal growth.  The many rewards of this most difficult work are well worth every ounce of effort. 

There are many reasons why people keep engaging in sexual behavior that goes against their deeply held values and commitments.  Sometimes the problem is clearly some form of sex or pornography addiction or compulsion.  Nobody likes to admit they aren't in full control of themselves, but if you want to change something it helps to call it what it is.  I don't quickly try to label someone a sex addict, and I take the time to figure out in a meaningful and personalized way what's going on and what to do about it.  At the same time I have many tools from my sex addiction training that apply to everyone, whatever a person wants to call the problem.

At it's most basic level sex addiction is a loss of control of the ability to make consistently healthy sexual choices.  Like any other addiction it gradually steals more time and energy away from other pleasures, responsibilities and commitments. Its outcome is measured in losses: loss of connection, self-esteem, trust, relationships, time, income, integrity, freedom, health and hope.  When the same behavior keeps happening in the face of all of this risk, and despite sincere promises to stop or control the behavior, THAT is the hallmark of an addiction.

Like termites in darkness eating away at a home's foundation, sex addiction creates secret tunnels and caverns in a person’s life.  This is how truly loving and ethical person develops what amounts to secret compartments in his or her life.  This slow erosion continues until the foundation finally collapses.

A way through this nightmare to a new and better way of living is absolutely possible.  I've been inspired to witness many courageous journeys out of the depths toward health, happiness, healing and wholeness. Breaking this cycle of pain and despair takes a lot of work. If you think I may be the right person to help you then let's set up an appoinbtment and we'll go from there. 

-Bill